Mr.Brightside wrote:So, on top of all the *** I've been going through lately, one of my closest friends is moving across the *** country.
Been there, done that. Twice, actually. Except I was the one moving the first time...
Texas to Hawaii, for four years. We actually stayed friends. I came back awhile ago and we started hanging out, again.
The point is, if you're serious about the friendship, distance doesn't matter.
And for the second one...
well, instead of "across the country," it was, "to the phillipines." And he was the one moving. He was only supposed to be there for a couple years. However, turns out it might be quite a bit more permanent. I'm able to keep up contact with him through Facebook.
But let me warn you; holding their image in your mind is a bad idea. I had a friend who I thought I knew better than anyone else. We went to different schools for a couple years, with minimal contact, at our school football games. I held onto this friend's image for dear life, because it was an amazing thing. And by image, I mean
who that person was, not physical appearance.
Anyway, when we finally got down to "talking," I was disgusted. The image I had was blasted to shreds. I freakin' raged. I still remember the "discovery" of the friend's change. The idea still brings up anger. I still think about who she use to be, every single day of my life.
Anyway, my point. People change. If you know this person now, the person you reunite with has a high probability of being a different individual, and it hurts.
Much luck with your troubles, Brightside.